Transitions - springing towards them!

Looking out the window, I can see signs of change everywhere as the sun (finally!) decides to hang around for more than a few minutes.

The bulbs pushing up through the ground and beginning to add some much needed colour, after one of the dullest and greyest feeling winters I can remember in a long time.

No this isn't a political post and I won't go into things on here because like many I am finding the transition hard. Transitions at the best of times can be tough for many but add in financial, health, social or emotional challenges and it just makes even the simplest of things feel like a massive mountain.

I look at the peaks that I have to climb to get back to where I want to be and there are often so many that I just don't know where to begin.

Now put yourself in the shoes of someone else, your child, friend, family member or the person you smiled at in the street today. They are facing the same sorts of transitions if not more than you, it could have been a challenge for them to even step out of bed this morning, never mind out of the house.

Many may not have the right tools in their kit to even recognise that it is that transition that is tripping them up not the next thing they are moving on to itself.

So how do we make the transitions as smooth and stress free as possible?

There are many answers to this, and they are all specific to an individual, for me I prepare. I think about what I'm going to do, and get myself ready in some way.

Laying out my clothes the night before and planning my breakfast is the only way you will get me up and exercising first thing (not a morning person), if I do this then 9 times out of 10 I will get up and get on with it.

The funny thing is that I always feel better afterwards even if I start off by hating how sweaty or unfit I feel, I get an ache in my muscles that tells me I have achieved, a feeling of peace that levels out my mood and starts me off in the right way.

This preparing can be applied to all sorts of situations, talking through what will happen in advance tends to remove anxiety, visualising a situation or practising scenarios in advance, being present and mindful and teaching yourself and others to identify and accept their feelings helps.

All in all, you need to do you!

Work out what you are worried about and do what you need to to smooth things over as much as possible, take in a toy as an attachment object, wear your favourite piece of clothing, try yoga, mindfulness, a run or just talk to a friend who can be there if you need them.

Get out and conquer your own personal mountains, tame those transitions and you never know what you might achieve.

nurcha natter